Lamâsching Protocol (Joachims school)

This particular lamâsching/lamâschutra (terms are not completely clear yet) school is build less on fixed conventions like "This is allowed and this not" but more on clear communication signals to be able to check that the space of contact in consent is secured.

While the concepts of separated sensual and sexual contact are known to the author, the Joachim school of lamâsching does not have fixed limitations in one area. Everything is allowed as long as it does not go against the the will of a participating person in the sense that this person is dragged into something he/she does not want.

Lamâsching is a mostly physical experience. That's why the communication signals and guides provided here are primarily of physical nature.

Freedom

First things first: While we encourage to communicate a situation in a way that we can sustain physical contact we want to point out that we are free to leave the lamâsching/lamâschutra pit whenever we want and we support people that want to leave so they can do that easily.

The roles

We differentiate into different roles at certain points while keeping in mind that normally all participants have all roles that are changing when everything is flowing.. This means that perhaps only a certain body part of a person is for example in the role of the giver. This could be a hand, a leg or whatever body part that fits the role in this moment.

Giver: The giver (part) is actively reaching out. As giver be aware that you move in a tempo where people can react and communicate gently if you step on their borders.  Be receptive to feel when people give you signals that you reached a border and respect it and follow the signal.

Receiver: The receiver (part) has the biggest responsibility in the lamâsching/lamâschutra pit. The most important part of this role is to be in constant awareness where the own personal borders are in the moment and not to ignore when borders are stepped over but instead actively communicate these borders clearly and adequately.

Forms of physical communication:

1. Do not give in or evade: The first premise is that we do not let ourselves be changed in our comfortable established position,  by someone approaching us. That means we do not let us be touched when we realize that this is not within our comfort zone anymore. We also do not react by turning away when we had a clearly established comfortable position.
2. Redirect: When a person touches an area where you don't want to be touched at the moment redirect them. Take their body part and give it a clear and gentle impulse to another direction. See also guide.
3. Tip/Clap: When the gentle redirection did not work and the person is going over your borders, tip on their body part (e.g. fingers, hands, feet, head) or clap on it (e.g. bigger body parts like arms, legs , hips , shoulders, torso...). If tipping doesn't help change to clap.
4. Pinch: If a person is not responding to a clap (which can happen when you are in half sleep while moving or concentrating a lot on receiving) pinch them. This may be painful but is necessary when the consciousness of a person has drifted away so far from their body(part) that they do not any more realize the above forms of communication.
5. Speak out: If a person is not reacting even to your harder pinches there is something wrong. It may be that they lost feeling in the body part (somebody lies on their arm and pressured blood vessels lead to numbness), perhaps they forgot about the framework or even mistook you for someone they had another agreement with. In any way speak out what you want/what you dislike e.g.: "Take your tongue out of my ear", "I don't want to have a foot on my belly" , "Take your elbow away from my penis" or whatever. Make a clear wish.
6. Change: If all your communication attempts fail and you still cannot maintain a comfortable position and contact change your position.

Remember that if you do not trust in the people around you in this moment you can leave. To stay means that you decide to confront your distrust.

Guide: Because the giver respects the borders given by the receiver it could come the situation where I declared my butt as a no go zone and then at some point I change my mind and feel like having the warm leg, that I redirected away before, would now be actually quite nice on my cold butt. To expect that the person will approach my but again with her leg would be unrealistic in this formation because I would expect the person to go against the rule of respecting borders where they were set. To solve this issue I can take initiative, grab the leg and place it gently on my butt.

As a guide I could also guide a body part of somebody else in a direction they did not explore beforehand. When doing that I have to be aware that I am confronting this person very strongly in a double role as giver and receiver, me being first giver and then receiver and the other person being first receiver and then giver.

Other senses

The core of lamâsching is physical contact. All other senses are involved. While tasting follows a similar principle than touching, hearing, seeing and smelling senses have a much wider range in space. If you feel any of these senses disturbed you can communicate that and formulate a wish from that. Nobody is obliged to follow that wish. Remember, you are free to leave if you feel strongly disturbed.

Examples: "I see you start having sex over there. Would you mind doing that somewhere else?", "Something here smells like really strong cheese. Could whoever is the source of that take care that this smell vanishes?", " Who is snorting here? Can someone wake up this person?"

Be honest and direct in your communication while not blaming. Again, if you can't stand the situation you are free to leave.

Dissolving roles, master the lamâsching

This lamâsching school has no fixed boundaries. slight touching, petting , sexual contact, everything is allowed as long as it is build on comfortable consent and the free decision of confronting and exploring places out of the regular comfort zone.

With the right practice the awareness and coordination of individuals will grow and the mixture of roles will happen more and more into an undefinable salad

Emergency cases, shock or unconsciousness: While not being very likely, I want to make very clear that in a case of emergency, like someone falling into shock or being unconscious, first aid protocol kicks in and everyone in the room is (by German law and rules of lamâsching) bound to help to their best ability in supporting the person who took lead in first aid measurements or initiate the measurements themselves.