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Be considerate about the basic needs of yourself and the people around you. Check out the Maslow pyramid of needs to find out what is important for human beings, even if you lack the experience of having basic needs not met or did not grasp the understanding yet.
First try to be honest towards me, then you can focus on being nice.
If your priority of being nice is higher than being honest ask yourself why.
Act in accordance with your heart and (this and is really important) mind, thinking and feeling at the same time is possible.
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