Recently voices have been raised criticizing the unclear interpersonal relationships in lamâsching circles. It is true, since nobody wears a sign stating their mood, expectations and wishes it can be hard to figure out what is appropriate to do in a given situation. This general issue was already raised in the initial stages of lamâsching culture, without offering a fixed solution. Following the definition lamâsching is "to really, truly, deeply appreciate someone's presence" and also expressing that physically. The amount of time spent on this expression or the intensity of doing so, however, is not specified.

The following table is meant to offer a rough overview of the wishes and circumstances of frequent lamâschers, to make judging situations of physical closeness more doable. Still, metacommunication is appreciated and full clarity of the nature of a relationship can only be found in direct face-to-face conversations!

Suggestions for categories describing 'Lamâsching Availability':

• 'I love being touched whenever possible'
• 'I like being touched occasionally and appreciate specifically dedicated lamâsching spaces'
• 'I can be touched occasionally but don't value lamâsching piles'
• 'I don't want to be touched occasionally but may join lamâsching if I feel like it'
• 'I will always decide case by case'
• 'Please don't touch me, I will approach you if I ever feel the need'